"Why do you seldom talk about your baby? Don't you love him?"
To answer that, I have to delve into the past.
When I was still single, I got SO annoyed with people who talked about their babies. Oh sure, their babies are cute and all that, but must they talk about it like, all the time? Show pictures, saying, "Look how cute her face is when she sleeps!" or "Don't you think he looks like an angel when he's pooping?" Stuff like that. And top of that, they ALWAYS said something like this, "When are you going to get married? Have a baby? Having a baby is wonderful!"
I don't know why, but they all seemed to be oblivious to other people's feelings. If they were more sensitive, they'd know that I have no interest whatsoever in their offsprings. Why should I be? They were not mine. I felt no connection with the babies. Do I sound heartless? Probably, but at least I'm being honest.
So, now, I only share stories about Aza with people who are really interested in him. I don't want to be the people I used to hate in the past, who bragged about their babies' accomplishments, who always said, "My baby is the cutest baby in the whole universe!" And most of all, I don't want to turn into many people I met in the past, who ceaselessly compared their babies with others'. Heaven forbids!
The strange thing is, my single friends back then, who now have babies, have turned into the people they used to hate.
Yes, yes, yes, whenever they talk to me, if and only if they ask about Aza, they just want to compare Aza with their babies.
I hate that.
4 comments:
how true, Donna!
I hate it too when people talk endlessly about their kids. Why should I care about kids I don't even know? Just looking at their pictures doesn't make me think that they are cute (and sometimes they aren't). Of course I think that my baby is the cutest baby in the world, but since I know that everybody else think the same about theirs, I choose not to blabber about my baby unles asked. After all, I have a whole blog dedicated to him so I can blabber all the way I want :)
And yes, what is this thing about mothers comparing their babies? arrgh
yupe... i detest other people comparing their kids with mine. and i especially hate it when they say, "my baby can do this and that. what can your baby do?" hmpph!
hey, thats how my friend:wiggelingwaggeling.blogspot.com
feels! she doesnt like other moms who are busy parading their kids everywhere and 'promoting' them endlessly..but she writes about her kid thoroughly in the special blog dedicated to her kid: http://lemmecallusweetheart.blogspot.com/
Been there, hopefully haven't done that ;)
Really really really understand how you feel.
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